okay that might sound funny but.....we have been working on it for a year. She goes to her daddy's every other weekend and she goes to daycare 40 hours a week. I'm loosing my ever loving mind, I can't enjoy my child b/c I resent her. I hate myself for this. I've tried candy stickers, she liked the candy but now there is too much pressure for her to do it. Everyone keeps aggravating me and putting me down for not having her potty trained yet. NOt to mention she mumbles thru her sentences and doesn't speak perfectly. I'm tired of this.
Help my daughter is 3 in january and I'm at a standstill with potty training. It's like she is stubborn.
First of all, relax. A 2 or 3 year old wants to have control. What's the one thing they can control but you can't?? Where they poop and pee. If she sees this bothering you and you pressure her a lot, she knows it's important to you and she gets even more control. What worked for my very stubborn boy the same week he turned 3 was putting him in underwear. Everytime he peed in them, I'd let him stay in his wet pants for 5 minutes or so. He hated the feeling and usually cried. I didn't punish or yell at him. I didn't make a big deal out of it. I just said in a calm voice that if you go on the potty, you don't get wet and it feels better. Mom's busy right now but I'll change you in a few minutes. Then I found something to do for a few minutes and then changed him. This happened maybe 3 or 4 times and he was trained. Plastic underwear can be used over the cotton ones if you want to minimize dripping, but it doesn't work as fast for training since they don't get their legs and feet wet. Pooping is another story though. He never had an accident in his undies, but would hold it. Eventually he had to go and the issue resolved itself. Good luck and try to enjoy all the wonderful things about your child and focus on the things she does well and praise her!!
Reply:do not let anyone put u down for this she is ur child her speech will correct itself eventually!
rember every child is different so comparing them is silly,ur child is indivdual just like u.
try making up songs to encourage ie.poo poo in the potty.
all children will toilet train in their own time frustrating i know but it will happen,ur child is not stubborn she is just not ready its very scary process that cannot be rushed my two kids were trained at 3yrs 2 mths they done it instantly and came out of nite nappies as well.This way u can do it successfully and be free of nappies in notime lol
I recommend that u wait until after her third bday as she will have more understanding then and also bladder control she will know when she needs to go.
when u decide to train her let the daycare know and they will be able to assist u and this will make it a lot easier 4u.
In the meantime tell everyone whos annoying u that shes ur daughter and u no best. dont let them demean u as this will get u down and even more stressed and ur daughter will pick up on this tell the nosy buggers to keep theyre nose out lol.
chin up and good luck u know whats best 4 ur daughter noone else.
Reply:I think you are spot on about the pressure. She will get it, just be patient.
Reply:When a friend of mine recommended a potty training step stool, I was skeptical it would make a difference. I could not believe my kids reaction to The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. This stool makes every toilet kid-sized. My kids immediately climbed up on this stool and discovered that they could safely and securely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly. My kids like to use what they know mommy and daddy use. And it really is wonderful having your kids independently use the toilet on their own. The handles make all the difference --both felt comfortable and were relaxed enough to have easy bowel movements. Plus for my son, it really did help for him to learn standing up. He could see what was happening and connect the sensations.
I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you
Reply:Potty training is always a difficult one, and I know that wherever you go, be it the playground at your local park, your child's nursery or the toy shop that they've been nagging you about visiting for what seems like an eternity, there will always be some mother who brags about how her child was potty trained by one and a half and caught on within two days, and it can get so fustrating you feel like you're going to explode.
But honestly, you just need to be patient. Your daugher may feel like she's under too much pressure and be beginning to think of the potty as a negative thing, and something that is connected to being tense and nervous, especially if you let your fustration show during that time. I know it feels like you're getting nowhere, but just trust that soon enough, it'll happen.
Reply:My daughter didn't start using the potty until she was 3 1/2. Screw what everyone else says...I went through the same thing...having to listen to people....but the truth is: each child is different...and it's ok if she's not ready yet...she will be. You just need to be patient with her.
I took my daughter to the store and let her pick out her own potty seat (she refused to use the little plastic potty's...but opted for one of those seats that set right on top of the regular toilet)....then, I let her pick out the underwear she liked best....
I know what you're going through, believe me! It drove me nuts and i just felt like screaming...but the truth is, she'll pick it up, you just have to give her time and let her go at her own pace...the more you push, the harder it'll be for her to get it....you don't want to force her to sit on the potty and have her see you all upset about it, because she'll think that it's a bad thing to use the potty.....when you have her sit on the potty, maybe make up a 'potty song' that you can sing with her...play patty cake or let her "read" a book....
once my daughter decided on her own that she wanted to try it, there was no turning back....and she picked up on it fast....just hang in there :)
Reply:Kids potty train at different ages. So don't listen to what people say about that. How does your daughter do at daycare and with her dad?
Bribes don't work, she has to want to go. Have you tried having her wear "big girl panties"? That did the trick for my daughter. I let her pick them out and we had occassional accidents, but for the most part that was the end of potty training.
Another thing to try is to have her go every couple of hours or take her into the bathroom when you go.
Good luck. She'll catch on, just have patience with her.
Reply:As children approach 2 years of age, parents frequently start thinking about toilet training. What is the "right" age? Depending on whom you ask, the "right" age may range from as young as 6 months to 3 years. While age can be used as a determining factor, there are several others to address. The most important factors are not necessarily age, but rather physiologic, physical and psychological readiness.
Before a child can be "toilet trained", she must have attained a certain amount of physiologically readiness, namely "bladder readiness". In infancy, babies frequently are unable to hold large amounts of urine in their bladder and void small amounts. As a child grows older, her bladder becomes more mature, and is able over time to hold larger amounts of urine between voids. This comes hand in hand then with the additional ability to be able to increase the interval between voids. When you notice that your child is dry at longer intervals (i.e. dry after a nap or for at least 2 hours) and is voiding large amounts at a time, then that is a sign that your child may be physiologically ready for toilet training.
Another component, which overlaps with psychological readiness, is the ability of your child to recognize that she is voiding (i.e. if your child does not recognize when she is voiding, toilet training is virtually impossible). Some children start showing some signs of "bladder readiness" around 2 years of age. Most will attain it by three years of age.
Another component of readiness is physical readiness. This includes the ability to walk well (to and from the bathroom), to be able to pull pants up and down, and the ability to get on and off the toilet/potty chair fairly independently. While this may seem like a "given", think about grandmas who claim their children were toilet trained at 6 months or a year of age. Some kids are not even walking at a year, how could they be toilet trained?
The last component is probably the most important: psychological readiness. Or what I like to call willingness! If a child is not bothered by a wet or dirty diaper, if she is uninterested or unwilling to sit on the potty, believe me, you are not going to get very far. As the saying goes, you can place a toddler on a potty, but you can't make her pee. Toddlers quickly learn that they can control their bodily functions.
Once your child is showing all these components of toilet training readiness, most experts recommend waiting at least three months before you start toilet training to ensure that all is set. This is a good time to "set the stage" for toilet training as well (letting her observe others using the toilet, introducing books or videos on the subject, starting to talk about them using the potty soon).
Last but not least, look at yourself and your family situation. In order for toilet training to be as painless and smooth as possible, make sure that you AND your child are ready. Some kids toilet train quite easily, while for others it becomes what seems like a long drawn out battle. If you are incredibly busy at work, moving to a new house or a new baby is due soon, it's ok to wait a few months to let things settle down. This is probably one of the biggest steps for your child and it's worth it to wait.
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I am not a fan of potty training children early. In the ten years I have been helping parents with potty training, I have never known even one who was completely trained when starting before the age of three. That doesn't mean that there are not success stories out there; however, completely potty trained means that they can go to bed in a regular pair of cloth underwear (not thick with extra padding) and wake up dry eight hours later. Those parents that say that their kids are trained before the age of two usually regress sometimes before the age of five.
Spanking, yelling and threatening always backfires. If a parent pulls a power play, the child will become absorbed in the unnecessary battle and become overwhelmed. Stress rises to a new, yet negative level. Unfortunately, for parents, the kids win on this one. They can potty (go to the bathroom) in the potty or potty in the underwear as a powerful tool resulting in negative retaliation creating major challenges in switching back and forth from potty training, poor eating habits and mood swings.
Using food as a reward is not a way to entice toddlers into becoming potty trained.
In fact, this can lead to harmful eating habits as well as using food for emotional satisfaction.
Here are a few tips that have seemed to work for others in keeping the process running smoothly as well as maintain emotional well being intact for everyone.
1. Concentrate on potty training only. Don't make it hard on kids, but you will have to watch them almost every minute. Do not go anywhere with them for two weeks unless you can take the potty with you.
2. Use stickers as a reward. Let them pick out the stickers at a store.
3. Wrap up small gifts found as rewards after each time they successfully go to the bathroom. Children love to open presents. Put them inside a big box and let them choose the one they want to open. Rewrap them. That's right. Use them repeatedly. After they begin to get potty trained, tell and show them there are only six presents left and then, "they'll be all gone." Each time you let them open one, say, "Look, there's only 5 more left, but we have stickers," -- or whatever else you would like to use -- other than food.
4. Do not use food as a reward. Sweets, candy, or any type of food is not good for a positive reward system at this age. It will only leave them anticipating food as rewards for other accomplishments and could lead to eating disorders later in life.
5. After each successful potty trip, clap and say, "Whoohoo. You are such a big boy/girl! Good job!" Go call someone and share the news. Let the child tell them what a good job that they did. This only reinforces positive experiences for potty training.
6. Make up a calendar with tons of pictures of your child on it. Make the days of the week large squares to have plenty of room for the stickers. Let your child put up a big star each time he/she goes to the potty on that specific day.
7. Put Cheerios in the toilet and let the boys aim at them. Since they are a little more difficult to potty train, there are other incentives on today's market to attract little boys to the potty. Check at your favorite store for such tools.
8. Buy many books during clearance sales. Keep a box of books by the potty. If possible, read a page or two or share a picture book. Read one or two books, if your little one needs to go number two.
9. Monitor food and liquid intake. Take your child to the potty on a schedule. You will have to watch the clock to monitor food and drink intake. Cut out liquids two hours before bedtime and no caffeine -- ever.
10. Ship your precious little one off to grandmas or an aunt's house, if things get too hairy. Sometimes, other folks can potty train our children better than we can. If you have a relative who is willing to help and your kiddo will not "walk the plank" for you, let someone else try. You might be surprised how quickly the job will be completed.
Above all else, let the child show and tell you when he is ready. It may not be the calendar timing you'd like to follow, but the frustration and stress is just not worth the repercussions.
Remember, accidents will occur at the least expected time. Stay cool and anticipate it as part of parenthood - this too shall pass.
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Do you think potty training one kid is tough?
How would you feel about potty training 6, 10 or even more kids at the same time?
Although the average parent won't have to face such a challenge, daycare providers are faced with potty training large groups of children every day.
And surprisingly, many parents make no effort towards potty training and give their daycare provider total and complete responsibility for getting their kids potty trained.
When asking parents if they have thought about or started potty training during well child visits at 18 or 24 months, I very often hear parents say 'no, they will do that at daycare.'
And isn't that part of the reason that you pay for daycare?
Not really. While daycare providers are expected to work on potty training, such an attitude can actually make the process much more difficult, so that it takes longer for your child to become potty trained.
In preparing their book, Good Going! Successful Potty Training for Children in Child Care, Gretchen Kinnell and the Onondaga County's Toilet Learning Task Force identified 'things parents did which made potty training difficult for children' and their daycare providers.
What kinds of things do parents do that can interfere with potty training?
One of the most important is being inconsistent and either not starting potty training once their child is ready and the daycare has started, or potty training using a very different method.
Another 'frustrating' problem that daycare providers face, is parents who dress their kids in clothing that actually makes potty training difficult because they are hard to quickly remove. These clothes include bib overalls, pants with belts, one piece outfits and jumpsuits, onesie-type undershirts and tights.
I was surprised to read that there were 'good clothes and bad clothes' and I'm sure that many parents are also uninformed and make the mistake of using 'bad' clothes, not because they want to be difficult, because they just don't know any better.
And that brings us to the main purpose for Good Going!, to provide information and advice for parents and daycare providers so that together they can form a 'partnership' to make potty training easier.
In addition to the lists of good and bad potty training clothes, Good Going! provides important Readiness Indicators, so that everyone can learn to recognize when a child is ready to start potty training.
Other chapters discuss routines to help children get started with potty training, how to choose an appropriate potty chair, and how to practice good hygiene, which is especially important in a group daycare setting.
Also important are the chapters that discuss how to develop partnerships between day care providers and parents and dealing with problems, such as if a child refuses to use the potty and the common problem where a child refuses to have bowel movements in the potty.
Unlike other books which stress a rapid or quick approach to potty training or starting early, before most toddlers are ready, Good Going! empasizes a 'gradual process'. that begins when a child is ready and ends with children mastering this important 'self help skill'.
Although your child, unless he has developmental or medical problems that interfere with potty training, will likely eventually learn to use the potty, reading Good Going! will help parents and daycare providers avoid common mistakes and become true partners in helping a child learn to use the potty with confidence and ease.
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