My daughter will be 3 years old in November...and I'm stilllllll having difficulty potty training her. We've tried EVERYTHING and remained consistent with whatever we tried. She's very smart, she knows and understands a lot of things we wouldn't have expected from her for her age...but it's the potty thing she doesn't seem to get. I make her wear panties and I constantly tell her when to go, but as long as i've been doing that..she still doesn't tell us on her own. I'm about to have another baby in 3 weeks and I'm afraid we'll be changing 2 diapers. We let her walk around naked, we praise her when she goes, but that did nothing so I started spanking her b/c I figured she knows better by now...could something be wrong with her?
HELP!!!! Potty Training Difficulties?
Nothing is wrong with her, I know plenty of kids that went beyond 3 years old and were just too stubborn to go on the potty. My son is one of those but I sent him to stay with my mom for a week and he came back in underwear and never wet his pants again. Have someone else try if you can. I would just sit her down on the potty chair and make her sit there until she goes and then give her a piece of candy or something that will make her excited. She will get it soon.
Reply:spanking never works for anything x when u say potty i presume you mean a plastic potty?? have u tried getting a small toilet seat that fits on your toilet and a step to get up on toilet, maybe if u havent you could take her shopping for one and tell her she going to be big girl now and make a big deal out of buying them together. lots of praise if she uses it and maybe a sticker chart on wall for when she uses it, if she gets so many stickers she gets a treat, doesnt have to be sweets or toys, could be a trip to park or something else she loves to do. good luck she will get there in end and sometimes they sense your stressed about things so try to keep calm x
Reply:I have a friend who trained her 2 year old in one day. This is what she did: she set a potty chair in the kitchen (because that's where she spent most of her day...but you can put it in the room where you spend most of your time), took her daughter's diaper off, set her on the chair and bribed her with an entire 2 liter bottle of soda pop. She gave her a cup of it and the girl drank it...and loved it! She wanted more. But Mom would only give her more if she remained seated on the potty. Eventually the girl would pee. Repeat the process several times after the initial pee-pee and praise your daughter for doing her business on the potty chair. This is called positive reinforcement and is far more effective than negative reinforcement (i.e. punishment of some sort, like spanking).
Many parents blanch at giving their kids that much sugar and caffeine, but it's only for one day and the rewards are immediate. Give it a try. You've got nothing to lose, and I'm sure it's a lot better for you and her than giving her 'lil tushy a swat. Good luck! : )
Reply:hi i would say there is absoultely nothing worng with her. but at three she should be trained by now, may b u started it all a little late but never mind ,Don't equate toilet-training with good mothering. The idea that the earlier baby is eating three squares a day, weaned, toilet trained, and independent, the "better" the mother is nonsense.
Approach toilet-training as an exciting interaction rather than a dreaded task; consider this event an initiation into your role as instructor.
and also You have not failed Parenting 101 if your baby is the last on the block to be dry. As with eating and sleeping, you can't and shouldn't force a baby to be dry or clean, but you can set the conditions that help baby train himself.
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Reply:No there isint anything wrong with her and you shouldnt spank her for that. Potty training is a developing issue. Even though she is smart and you think she knows better she probably does know but isint sure about it yet and isint ready. My daughter was the same EXACT way. Very smart knows so much more for her age. But when it came to the potty chair she just wouldnt do it. She was 3yrs and a few months. my mom and I even argued about it. But the main thing is dont make a big deal out of it just keep talking about it in a positive way because if your spanking her she is going to see it as something negative and probably will never want to go on the potty chair. I know its stressful but just hang in there and she will will come around when she is ready.
Reply:I just potty trained my son and daughter. I like an approach where I don't have to pressure or push my child. What worked for me was The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. My kids immediately climbed up on the stool and discovered that they could safely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly.
I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you.
Reply:No, nothing is wrong with her, and spanking her definitely won't help things. When I tried at home, my daughter didn't want to sit long enough to do anything, therefore a couple minutes later she'd have wet pants. Just a couple days before her 3rd birthday, my mom had her for a day and had underpants on, and she only had one wet accident, and one time she started to do #2 in her pants but finished on the potty, and after that it was easy going! By the time I picked her up in the afternoon, she was running to the bathroom all on her own! It's just the fact that she was more ready to do it finally. It's been 2 weeks now, with an accident a couple times (playing outside, being somewhere new), but other than that everything is going extremely well. My sitter's daughter did the same thing. Except she was very stubborn about it, wanted nothing to do with going on the potty. She finally was interested after she turned 3. There are also some kids who aren't fully ready until age 4. So you have plenty of time. Maybe put the undies away for a while, and try again in a month. Your daughter will definitely let you know when she's ready! As long as you keep the option there for her, you don't need to push her into it.
Reply:Try these (my son potty trained at 23 months and he is 3 now):
1. Don't reward necessarily for going pee on the toilet - I will pee on a toilet if I can have a candy. Reward for staying dry, as that is the real concept that you want your daughter to learn.
2. Keep making her wear underwear. Training pants and diapers don't let kids understand the full consequences of peeing in them. Ask her for one full week, every 15 minutes if she is dry (have her "check" her panties and tell you yes or no). If she is dry, praise her and ask her if she needs to go (make sure she is fully hydrated and have her go regardless every hour).
3. When she does have an accident, have her help wipe it up, take her own pants and panties off and take them to the washing machine. Once kids get what a real pain it is to do all of that instead of just peeing, they get the point.
4. Keep being consistent. Don't worry about nighttime dryness until she is ready - that is a bladder development issue, not a training issue.
I did these things with my son and we went to the store and picked out a really awsome toy that he could have if he stayed dry for an entire week. It took a couple weeks to finally have a full week but he got it. It was SOOOO hard at first I wondered what I was thinking even trying it but I just kept at it. Giving up in the middle or restarting and then stopping again only shows your daughter that you aren't so sure yourself. And be careful when the new one comes, a little regression is VERY common, but stay consistent and keep following the above steps - again, putting her back in diapers may be easier in the short, but it's only showing her that you're not sure that she can do it. And don't worry, I don't know of any fully competent adults that aren't potty trained - she WILL get it!
Reply:Hi, its normal...when she is ready she will automatically go by herself. You can not force a child into potty trained.....my son is three %26amp; still kindda potty trained...he only goes when he wants to %26amp; if you force him or make him to...he will do the opposite, which really drives my insane.....I understanding you are having another baby in a couples of weeks, but to need to be patient.....perhaps your partner can help out...
Reply:Nothing wrong with her...she's normal. We started potty training our son when he was your daughter's age (few months before his 3rd birthday). It was sooooooo hard to do that I thought he would never figure it out. We tried everything too and here's what eventually worked.
1--There's a really silly DVD called Potty Power. We rented it from NetFlix and my son really liked watching it. It helped.
2--We let him go naked for about 4 days so he could actually see himself pee. Then he was able to associate that feeling of pressure on his bladder. With a diaper on, or with underwear on, he couldn't see what he was doing.
3--We gave him rewards. One M%26amp;M every time he would pee on the potty. Three M%26amp;M's every time he would poop on the potty.
4--LOTS of praise when he would do it right.
5--He would watch his dad go to the bathroom and he wanted to be just like daddy. Your daughter can watch you go.
But honestly, he only truly figured it out on his own just after his 3rd birthday.
Hope that helps..and good luck.
mari
Reply:talk to a doctor and get her checked out but im sure she will be fine some kids take their time
Reply:ahhhh, I remember potty training well...a total nightmare! lol, My son was not fully potty trained until almost three and a half years old. I tried before then because I thought he was ready too but it completely backfired on me. My only advice would be to take a deep breathe and stop for a few days. I know you are fustrated but dont spank her for this because it will only make her fustrated and associate this whole potty business with negativity. There is no set age when she should be potty trained, my first was almost four and my second was two and a half...if she cannot tell you when she needs to go then she is not ready and no matter what you do she wont get it until she is. Nothing is wrong with her, she is not even three yet. Dont put so much pressure on her, I know you would like to get her potty trained before the next one comes, but it might not happen so prepare yourself. The only thing that worked with my son was to wait until he could tell me that he needed to potty or that his daiper or underwear was wet, when that happened I was able to let him wear underwear during the day and a daiper at night and he was eventually completely trained in about a week....but not until HE was ready, it has nothing to do with whether or not IM ready. Take cues from her and figure out if maybe you need to push it back a bit longer.
Reply:Maby shes just retarded
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