How do we work on potty training if we only have very limited time to spend with her????

My fiances daughter is almost 3 and we are still trying to help her with potty training. It is so frustrating for me because she's not my genetic daughter, but I love the lil one, and I know how smart she is! It seems like we are the only ones working with her on potty training and we only get to have her 1 night overnight, and a couple days a week for a few hours each! His ex doesn't work with her, her daycare doesn't work with her, and we try so hard, but there's very limited time.


We have tried to make it fun. We got her favorite character "big girl panties", but she's not excited about it. We ask her if she has to go potty, and she has several times, but she won't initiate it and tell us when she has to go. We have done "treats" (fruit snacks, movie time) and made it a big deal when she does good, but she has no interest on wearing panties and would rather have her pull ups. Is she not interested b/c it's not consistent? not fun enough? less work for her? Any ideas??

How do we work on potty training if we only have very limited time to spend with her????
a lot of kids aren't interested in going potty, but don't stop encouraging her. if she doesn't make the first move then you must. take her every 30 minutes until she goes. do the best you can during the time that she's with you. and don't worry. she WILL get it eventually. it just takes some kids longer than others. be patient and good luck.
Reply:Sounds like it may be a slight problem that it's not consistant, but she will get it when she's ready. All kids train at different ages and in different ways, and you're doing all you can. You're also doing everything right, in my opinion. She'll get there.
Reply:It's hard potty training but remember that all children develop at different rates and very few children are ready to be dry at 1 1/2 years as their muscles just are not developed enough to control themselves at that age.





Be led by your child -





a lot of kids are not interested in going potty, but don't stop encouraging her. if she does not make the first move then you must.


take her every 30 minutes until she goes. do the best you can during the time that she's with you. and don't worry. she WILL get it eventually. it just takes some kids longer than others. be patient and good luck








Above all praise your child when they do it and they will learn that doing this makes you pleased with them - that's what all children want. .
Reply:Ya know....kids potty train when they're good and ready and trying to make it happen before then is just plain difficult. On top of that, you have a situation where your efforts are not being supported by her mother, or her daycare provider. With what you're describing, I would pull back on trying to train her and allow her to be in the driver's seat for this one. When she's ready, she'll start talking about it and become much more responsive to your encouragement. In the meantime, I don't think there's anything wrong with reading books and watching shows on the subject...even talking about it. Make it fun and not a chore. She'll let you know when it's time for the big girl panties.





Good Luck!





The Coach
Reply:she's not ready--when she's ready, it will not take work; she will just do it.. Lots of girls aren't physically mature enough at 3 to toilet train, and boys are often later. If you make it an issue before they can physically do it, you are setting yourself up for a huge power struggle.BEWARE! Besides, what's the big deal?
Reply:Oh the aggravation of potty training. My youngest was a bit hardheaded with it, but eventually caught on. I would sit on the big potty, while she sat on the little potty. We'd sit for 10-15 minutes. If she looked like she was using, I'd ruch her to the potty. It's one of those things that takes time...alot of time. It would definately be faster if everyone did their share, but I know you can't count on them. Good luck!!! So far you are doing excellent.
Reply:oh i feel for you! Id suggest keep up the good work, and why doesnt her mum want her to be trained?? id look on some websites especially for this type of thing good luck xxx
Reply:For my daughter, it meant so much to her to be able to use the toilet like she saw everyone else doing. I researched and found a safe stool with sides. http://www.amazon.com/Elite-Child-Corpor...


This turned out to be perfect for her. She loved climbing up to the toilet all on her own and she was totally stable. This made all the difference and even now that she has been trained a long time she still uses this stool. Well worth it.


Hope this helps.
Reply:my daughter is almost 3 as well she will be 3 in july and she is going through the same thing but i spank her when she doesn't tell me that she has to use the bathroom. i know that sounds harsh but she knows better so i have to let her know espically when she is in daycare all day and she goes to the potty with know problem her school is helping her with it and they let me know that she has no problems but it seems like when she gets home she thinks that she can go in her pull up i didn't want to resort to spanking but i had no choice espically since she likes wearing the panties. do not reward her with treats she will think that she can go on her self. i would also tell her school to take her to the bathroom after she eats so she can go. i would tell your fiance to talk to his ex tell her to stop buying the pull ups because they are just keeping her in the cycle she is in now. you don't have to spank her bum but it works for my daughter espically when she see's how upset i am