My boyfriend is in basic training, what shoul i do?

my boyfriend, 21, is in basic training right now in fort benning. he left 2 weeks ago. the day after he got there he made a phone call to his parents, which i felt sorta bad about because he didn't call me. we've never been apart. his parents kept calling him a loser and telling him to join, even though he was working for his dad's business. He was really obsessed with his parents before he left, and we were hardly ever alone which sucked b/c i felt uncomfortable with his parents b/c they didn't like how i didn't want him to go. anyways, after he left i went to his house to see how his mom was doing and she didn't even ask how i was, she just talked about her feelings. i got a really short letter a week after he went and inside it said my parents will call u with the mailing address, however i don't think they will. so what should i do? also, he's going to try to make the ranger program. can anyone give me information about that? how long will he be gone, etc?

My boyfriend is in basic training, what shoul i do?
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Reply:my husband said that you only get one phone call at a time, about 3 calls the whole time your their so that would explain why he called his parents and not you. Call his mom and get his address off of her. You should be sensitive to her feelings to, even though she may have encouraged him to go it doesn't make it anymore easy when he's actually there!! He's going to be REALLY busy there so you can't be too hard on him for not giving you as much attention as your used to. Just write him and count down until when he gets home!
Reply:Write him ever chance you get. A letter with his name and the name of his basic training post and state will reach him. Ask him for his address first off. His parents may not be passing on everything. Best to hear it from him if he does not want to hear from you. Ranger training follows Basic and Advanced Individual Training. I could not tell you how long it is now but another writer may. Write often - letters are gold in the military.
Reply:He calls his parents b/c parents %26amp; girl friends are not equal.


One has sacrified since his birth for him %26amp; will always love him %26amp; one may or may not be in his life even a week later.


You seem to be looking for a way out, if so write friendly letters %26amp; let him know later. Basic Training is tough %26amp; Ranger Training is really tough - he does not need added stress. Ask his parents for the address - look on enevolpe for return address. Write him often but remember they often hold mail %26amp; give it in groups as rewards - they with hold mail for punishment.





Ranger School is 56 days. It is hard to get accepted %26amp; then you often have to wait for a spot. My son had his deployment delayed because of delay in class spot opening. 20 days at Ft Benning, then the Mountain Division class, %26amp; then the


swamp class. They will lose 20-30 lbs on average %26amp; less than half will graduate.
Reply:What are you doing having a boyfriend at such a young age? Anyway, long distance relationships do not usually work out... Sorry.
Reply:My son's phone call home from boot went like this... "Hi, Mom. I have 30 seconds. Welcome to the Marine Corps. I'm just calling to say I'm here, I slept good last night, the food's great, and I'm good to go." I said, "Gosh, I can tell THAT was scripted... You must be having fun..." He said, "You have no idea!' and he chuckled a little... then he said, "Gotta go.. Love ya!" and was gone. That was the extent of the phone call. He wasn't allowed to call his girlfriend at all. I sent him mailing labels, envelopes, and stamps so he could write to family and friends... He loved it because he had such limited time, he didn't have to keep track of or spend time writing their addresses!





Contact his mom and ask her for his address. If she gives it to you, then thank her graciously and use it. Write to him every day. If she won't give it to you, then try writing him a VERY SUPPORTIVE letter and asking her to send it. DO NOT go on and on about how much you miss him. Tell him how proud you are of him, tell him how confident you are that he will get through it, and most of all be his cheerleader. He does not need to be burdened by the emotional struggles you're going through over him being gone. If you can't write a "cheerleader" letter, then you're not ready to be the girlfriend of someone in the military.





As for the Ranger program, it takes awhile to get there... take this one step at a time... but get used to the fact that you won't be seeing much of him for the next few years.
Reply:That might have been the only phone call he will get. Sorry to say this, but he isn't going to waste 10 minutes of call time on you. I really don't think that he is ready for a real relationship with you. I wouldn't do anything. Just let things work out on their own. If he doesn't give you his mailing address himself, then don't write him. I know this is not the answer you were looking for, but it sounds like he needs to grow up first. Wait until he gets back and see how he feels about you then.