We're potty training and my daughter keeps holding her bladder...?

I keep my daughter (she will be 3 in April) in underwear all day, except for naps and bedtime but she is somehow able to hold her bladder for hours! I'll sit her on the potty every so often but no cigar. I tried giving her lots of liquids but half the time she doesn't drink them or she's just really good at holding it in! Is there any way I can help her relax and know she doesn't have to hold it? Is there any way to give her a wake up call and realize, "yeah, i better start using the potty or else.." I thought about leaving her underwear on when I lay her down for a nap, just so she gets the message that this potty thing is serious but I thought that might be cruel. What do you think? Pull Ups don't work very well b/c to her they're just another diaper. Thanks!

We're potty training and my daughter keeps holding her bladder...?
I dont think it's cruel to leave her underwear on, when I was potty training my daughter I kept her in underwear all the time - the first couple times they have that accident in their underwear and its running down their leg, trust me she's not going to like it... the potty will be used alot more often.





Also - are you making it exciting and fun when she does go? If everytime she goes potty mommy goes crazy and claps and says "yeah good girl" and then she gets a prize (mini marshmellows or m%26amp;m's work wonders) she's really going to want to go in there and try. The trick is dont just give her the treats without her going, it has to be a reward for doing her potty. If you are worried still about the fact that she'll be in underwear and it will be a mess, you can contain the mess slightly by getting the plastic training pants to put over her big girl underwear at nap time - she'll still be wet but it wont go everywhere. Good Luck!!
Reply:So she only goes if she's wearing a diaper?


I don't think it would be cruel to leave her underwear on...she can't hold it forever. (holding it can lead to urine tract and bladder infections)
Reply:It's not cruel to leave her underwear on. She only wants to go when she's in a diaper, with this she'll realize you mean business. Tell her that she's a big girl and if she cries or waits specifically until she's got a diaper remark, "Oh, I guess she's not as big of a girl as I thought."
Reply:Maybe she is not ready. I have had the same thing happen to my 2 year old. She still is not ready to get potty training. You can try to sing her songs or rub her so she will feel relaxed. Also you can reward her and show her its good to go on the potty.
Reply:That is really wonderful that she is capable of holding her bladder. My daughter amazed me with how well she did using The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com This stool helped my children to completely relax and feel comfortable on the toilet. My daughter was potty trained in days and I never pressured her. I just set it at the toilet and said, "When you are ready to go potty on the toilet, you let me know." She was so interested in trying it and imitating what she had seen me do that there was never any problem. The sides gave my kids extra security and stability so they actually enjoyed using the toilet.





This is the safest stool I have found and it made potty training easy. Good luck.

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